“The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband.” 1 Corinthians 7:3
You read that right! The Bible tells us we should be having sex! Take special note, however, that this is the special gift of husbands and wives.
Apparently sex used to be for marriage. What an antiquated view of the world that is, right? Do people even believe this anymore? I mean, really, what’s so special about sex anyways. It’s just something two consenting adults (or at least almost adults) engage in because it’s something to do. It’s the natural next step after a couple of dates; a few walks while holding hands; a handful of make out sessions. What’s left to do with each other? Just sex.
Just sex. As if it’s a small, insignificant thing. Like texting or tweeting the latest happenings in our increasingly public lives. Just two people getting together. Just an act. Just hooking up. No commitment. No strings. No connections. Just sex.
But if you’re honest, you know that’s just not true. At least, it wasn’t the first time or two. If you’re honest, you meant it. You connected. You committed. And your heart was broken when it ended. But once we’ve done something once, it’s all the easier to do it again . . . and again. To the point that you may have accidentally numbed yourself to the intimacy and specialness of a gift given by the hand of your Creator. And that just plain hurts . . . doesn’t it? But you can get it back. You can’t undo things, but in Jesus you can move past them. You were created for something far more than “just sex”.
Not just sex. Not just marriage. Committment. Common interests and life goals. Love, not lust. Love that grows. Love that forgives. Love that is vulnerable. Love that acts on the behalf of another before self. Marriage! And into this beautiful union is given the wonderful gift of sex.
Have you fallen for the nonsense of our culture? Have you given the gift of your sexuality to someone only to see him walk out? The “next guy” is not the answer. You are precious. You are worthwhile. You are God’s special one. Believe this about yourself; not because I say so, but because the One who made you says so. Jesus restores us, no matter what we’ve done or who we’ve been with. Hold out for someone worthy of you; it’s well worth the wait. Someone who will commit to you and forgive you and love you for who God has made you to be.
Rushing into sex mixes things up. It mixes you up. Be picky. Find a good person to marry. Work together on your relationship. Whether you have a good marriage or not is entirely up to you and your spouse! Make it the best. Love each other. Forgive each other. Stand together with each other. Overcome obstacles with each other. And, as the Apostle Paul says, have sex with each other!
“We share our mutual woes,
Our mutual burdens bear,
And often for each other flows
The sympathizing tear.”
Blest Be the Tie That Binds (Lutheran Service Book, 649)