Are Fathers Obsolete?

A wise son hears his father’s instruction, but a scoffer does not listen to rebuke. (Proverbs 13:1)

There is a cultural movement in America today driving us away from respecting men in general and fathers in particular. From whence this has come may not be hard to identify. Generations of inconsiderate men ignored the opinions and thoughts of women. Another generation or two of fathers have abandoned their families. A sentiment within radical feminism has declared no discernible difference between men and women. New definitions of marriage and family state two moms are equal to a mother and a father. And most recently the fluidity of gender has worked to confuse everything. All are components to the cheapening of manhood.

For the sake of transparency, a “man” is defined as an individual who from birth is biologically/anatomically male as characterized by an Xy chromosome pair. He is selfless. He stands on his principles. He is a protector and provider. He uses the gifts God has given him – strength, intelligence, drive, etc. – for the sake of building others up rather than manipulating them. A “father” is a man who is there for his family. He has committed his life to the mother of his child(ren) through marriage. He will stop at nothing to protect his wife and children. He will set his wants aside for the sake of their needs. He will lead and teach his family through his words and actions. He ensures the family goes to church, reads the Bible, and prays. He actively oversees and even participates in the education of his children.

All too often, however, we see “boys” who are pretending to be “men”. Again, let me define my terms. A “boy” is an anatomically/biologically endowed male (characterized by an Xy chromosome pair) of ANY age who is defined by his selfish pursuit of pleasure, money, instant gratification, and a growing collection of stuff. “Boys” may look like “men”. They even sometimes behave like “men”, but it lasts only long enough for the “boy” to get what he wants, then he’s back to his old ways. “Boys” make horrible husbands and even worse “fathers”. They simply don’t care enough for other people to put in the time and effort necessary. “Boys” are quick to leave when things get challenging. “Boys” need to grow up.

It takes a man to be a father. Men stay. Men pray. Men love. Men take care of their families.

Lo and behold, this how the Lord has created things to work! Families work best (note the superlative) when composed of a husband/father, wife/mother, and children. This is what the Lord meant when He said, “a man will leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife”. Within the family that works best, fathers father their children, mothers mother their children, and children are loved, nurtured, and well adjusted as a result. Far from being obsolete, good fathers are necessary and irreplaceable. There is no substitute for a man who loves and cherishes his wife, while nourishing and protecting his children. This is a God-pleasing thing!

Gracious Father, thank you for creating men. Strengthen them to be who you created them to be. Raise up good men who will father their children while loving their families. Cause selfish boys to grow into to good men. Through Jesus Christ. Amen.



God said, “Let there be light,” and there was light. (Genesis 1:3)

Sometimes the “debate” between Creation and Evolution just gets old. Atheists and Christians ask the same basic questions: How did we get here? Why are we here? Where are we going? Grounded in his worldview, an atheist can no more dispassionately study origins with an open mind than a Christian who is anchored in her worldview that God (Father, Son, and Holy Spirit) created everything in six days.

Preconceived notions may seem self evident to you, but I believe it is paramount that we understand our own biases before delving into a discussion about the merits of each belief system. As mentioned, everyone asks the same questions. When responding to the questions, where you start will determine where you end up. To put it a different way, everyone starts with a viewpoint. You come at the question with bias. Either God created everything or He did not. Bias and preconceptions aren’t bad, I’m simply saying it would be refreshing if we admit we have them.

I’ll admit mine. I was born and raised a Christian, Baptized into the faith when I was a mere handful of months old. I have been taught from the Scriptures. I believe that Jesus Christ is the Son of God and that He told everyone in advance that He was going to die and be raised from the dead. I believe, based on the testimony of witnesses, that everything happened exactly as Jesus said it would. My faith in God comes from the fact that His Son died and rose from the dead. Thus, I put my trust and hope in Him. I find no compelling reason to doubt the truth revealed to me from the Bible. Therefore, I believe what I learn from the Bible about the Creation of all things.

I admit my bias is that God created everything and I believe the evidence points in this direction. Will atheists admit their starting place for believing in Evolution is a rejection of God? Will they allow themselves the vulnerability that their belief system is based first and foremost on a firmly held assumption that there is no God? Without a Creator, the atheist must seek another solution to the questions that press upon every human. For the atheist, such answers are found in nature. Scientists who reject God have explored nature as best they can and have come to Evolution as an adequate explanation of all things. The atheist who believes in Evolution has found no compelling reason to abandon that belief.

The real question behind our origins is not “which explanation is right?” The real question remains, “is there a God?” Neither Creation nor Evolution seek to answer this question. Throughout the pages of the Bible, the claim is made that God created everything and this same God interacts with His creation, even to the point of entering the creation as a creature. Whether you believe this or not will go a long way in determining your thoughts on the topic of “origins”.

Dear Jesus, Your word is clear about creation, yet many doubt these words because they doubt you. Stir within all a desire for Truth and share it with us through Your word. Amen.